Me too!!! Here are some tips that I found in Polly Campbell’s article:
1. Really examine your value system. It’s hard to behave authentically if you are less than aware of your values and desires. It is not uncommon to cling to values we were taught as a child. But, in order to live more authentically, we need to reevaluate what feels right to us now and align our actions around those things. Knowing what we truly care about will help us immensely.
2. Keep an open mind. Authenticity flourishes when we experience the world more wholly (i.e. lots of different perspectives). If our thinking is too rigid or narrow-minded we run the risk of being trapped in judgment and limitation. Often, this can cause us to shut down our vulnerable, authentic self. Challenge yourself to look at all sides of a situation. Do your best to be open!
3. Fill in the blank: If you really knew me you’d know this: ___________. This is a prompt Robbins gives to seminar participants (but I really think you can use this prompt at anytime to think more deeply about yourself). Not only does it prompt introspection and allow people to reveal essential aspects of themselves, it also builds trust, credibility and confidence with the person you are sharing it with. Authenticity sometimes feels scary and vulnerable, but it also helps to build greater intimacy.
4. Notice when you are being inauthentic. Robbins suggests that you pay attention to those times when you are insincere in your speech, or when you are acting in a way that doesn’t align with your core values. Take a step back to look at and think about what fears and beliefs might be getting in your way during these moments?
5. Trust your intuition. Often we feel out of sync when we are acting inauthentic. Things just don’t feel right. Pay attention to these hunches, impressions, and physical sensations. They are often your instincts telling you that you are not being genuine. When you are on track and authentic, you’ll feel this too.
And lastly, I would feel remiss if I did not share what Robbins says about the process…it just makes so much sense to me!!!
“Who we are evolves and changes,” Robbins says. “This is a dynamic process and one we can keep moving into at deeper levels. This is less about a destination than a journey of going deeper to keep discovering and unfolding new pieces of ourselves as we go.”
Well said!! I’ve learned to be myself and not worry what others think and be with people I want to be with. F–k the haters/critics!!
Living an authentic life is by its very nature living a life of change and growth. It requires you to be accepting of being occasionally uncomfortable, but it is so so worth it! Thank you for these posts, Mandy, you are truly special! ????????
Well Petey, I say good for you!!! 🙂 There are some who are always worried about what others think and feel about them and it dictates in some cases how they live their lives. And clearly, it’s hard to live authentically if one is always worried about what everyone thinks of “him”.
Yes Joe, I absolutely agree with you! 🙂 And sharing our real authentic self will certainly NOT always be easy or feel comfortable or be the popular voice in the room but YES…is IS so worth it!!! Thank YOU, Joe, for letting me know that you’ve been enjoying my posts. It means more to me than you know! I have a ton of respect for you and admire the way you have chosen to live your life!! XO 🙂
What does it mean if I hold purse for lady? This happened to me Friday between waxing/massage. My massuse gave me her purse and told me to get 6 pack for 2 of us. She wanted to hide 6 pack from neighbors. Bag at store would’ve made more sense but she gave me her purse I’ve never had this happen. Sissies told me with her doing this she knows I’m sissy and that she’s got power and control over me. I didn’t argue with her and did what I was told. I agree she knows ????????????once weather cools down I’m going to wear my women’s slacks/boots to massage and if she notices I’ll come out of closet and tell her this is why I’ve never had girlfriend/never kissed girl or been kissed by girls.
I don’t know if it means any one thing, Petey, but it sounds like you and she have a nice connection. And I do love the sound of your plan, too! 🙂
We do have a nice connection. I’ve been going to her at start of year answer clicked right away. We’ve had deep conversations about life. She’s had 2 surgeries with masctomy/breast implants/in process of separation and moving in which I told her I would help her if she needs me. She’s mentioned that I need to be just me and not worry or impress any one. Yes if she notices my women’s clothes I will confess this to her as this is reason I’ve never had girlfriends/never kissed a girl or been kissed by girls.
Also she had me take her purse to buy things for her. I’ve never had this happen and it caught me off guard. I didn’t say no to her. Other sissies said she knows I’m weak/submissive/feminine and that she has total power and control over me. What does this mean?
I think I agree with those other sissy’s, Petey! I think that you should simply tell her, make her the first one you come out of the closet to. Especially after the purse holding and saying that you should just be YOU!!! 🙂
I think that I agree with those other sissy’s, Petey! I think she knows just what you like and who you really are. 🙂 I think that you should come out of the closet for the first time with her. Especially since you’ve carried her purse AND she has told you that you should just be YOU!
I’m going to mistress. I’ve ordered women’s slacks/boots which will be in this Thursday. I also have corset as I need to start training asi have muffin top???????? it’s just that I’ve never had women do this to me ever. Carrying her purse was hot!! It was turn on. I’ll do it again. I also told her that if she needed help moving I would and she said she may take me up on that. Also with her calling me Hun & sweetie what’s your take on that?
Great!! What is YOUR take on being called those names, Petey??
I like it when she calls me that. she also told me she loves me to death and I never ever had women say that to me. It’s safe to say I’m in female lead relationship with her and by calling me Hun & sweetie I belong to her.
What’s your take on her sending me with her purse?