Although I was very much hoping that YOU would share your thoughts with me…your thoughts and feelings on living an authentic life…I think I will take some additional time and space and share more of mine with you. 🙂
Living an authentic life is NOT in my opinion something that is necessarily easy to do. Â At least not all the time…not always. Â There are most assuredly risks in being this open and honest with those in our lives, especially those that we know can hurt us the most. Â It’s risky to speak our mind when the fear of anger, hurt, or rejection may seem so great!! But, what do we lose if we don’t?!?
I think that often we try very hard to please others (not a bad thing) that sometimes we can lose ourselves and what we truly want and maybe need, what truly feels good and right and happy and authentic, for us!
And I am not saying that we shouldn’t compromise…far from it. Â Life is absolutely about compromise! Â But, I believe that there is a difference between compromising our desires (especially in the moment) and compromising our beliefs, our ideals, our value system! Â The really important parts of us that make us so special and unique… those parts that make us who we are intrinsically at our very core!
If we compromise in this manner, don’t we run the risk of truly losing ourselves… losing our authentic self?!? What do you think?!?  Do you agree with my premise or do you have a differing point of view??  Please share your thoughts with me…I would LOVE to hear them!!! 🙂
I agree with you that, while living an authentic life is important and necessary for happiness, there are always risks of getting hurt or hurting others. That said, it is still important to do. Compromise is important, but if one compromises their very beliefs or morals, they lose themselves in the process and that is a very bad thing. How often do you hear people say that they spent so much time being who/what everybody else wanted them to be that they lost themselves? Very thought-provoking post!
Everyone should try and live a more authentic life by being more aware of your beliefs, desires, and needs. It makes life much more worth living for. And being a true consistent authentic person you will gain the trust of many people to come.
Thanks for stopping by, Ms. Hunter and sharing your great thoughts and feelings about this! 🙂 I think that is the biggest thing…if one compromises his/her morals or beliefs the risk of losing themselves is great and certainly not a healthy positive thing! And to answer your question, I certainly have heard this on many an occasion. And it makes me sad and in some cases a little big angry, even.
This is great post. With myself I dress only at home to escape reality. It’s great to to do this. I would love to wear women’s clothes more& more in public but it’s to risky & im nervous what reaction I’ll get. I think with slacks/boots I could away with but with job I get dirty and on my feet all day putting away freight which has got worse as I put away 100 cases when I’m at store. Wearing adorable women’s slacks would get dirty and wear them out. With ankle boots my feet would be to sore after 8 hours. The only place I can wear them is home. The tennis girls don’t know of my dressing. I could wear slacks/boots next time I go out with them but am afraid what their reaction will be. My mixed partner had hot summer dressing at wedding the 3 of went to I didn’t say anything as other girl was there but wanted to???? the thing is I have a lot of hot body con dresses/boots/slacks/leggings/capris/yoga pants. I’d just love to do fun things with my mixed partner off the court. The only concern is age. She’s 15 years younger then me ????????
Thanks for stopping by Ms. Cindy and sharing your two cents on my post! 🙂 I couldn’t agree more…awareness about our own beliefs, desires and needs is key to knowing ourselves and in turn being able to live in authenticity. And yes, I am absolutely in agreement about gaining the trust and likely also the respect of many. 🙂
It’s better to be hated for who you are than loved for who you are not..:)
Wow Rick…I might have never thought of it this way. But, you know…I totally agree with you!!! 🙂 Although I never would want to be hated and I am sure others might feel the same. But, if loved for who and what you are not, well that certainly would feel hollow, at best. Thanks so much for reading and sharing your thoughts with me! 🙂
I know Mandy…being authentic can be hard even in front of family, co workers or a lot of other different situations….but I can always be myself with you! 🙂
There was a movie called The Mask…I love that movie…it kinda deals with this topic…it made me laugh o hard!
Hey there, so Hunter correctly says : That if one compromises too much that they could lose their morals or beliefs, I agree that that is very dangerous. So, I am coming around to the idea that one has to have boundaries and that those are a part of living authentically. Others peoples problems are other peoples problems, not authentically mine. Great topic, I didn’t know you were so cool.
Yes Rick, it sure can!! Thanks for letting me know that you can always be yourself with me. It makes me feel fantastic knowing you can be your authentic self with me! 🙂 XO
YES! That WAS a great movie! And it does connect on this topic, I agree. It made me laugh a ton, too! Jim Carey is hysterical and in my opinion super talented!! 🙂
Yes Jennifer, I absolutely agree with you wholeheartedly I think having boundaries is crucial for our lives in general, and in specific, for living authentically. And yes, other’s problems are certainly not authentically yours, however, at times I think we might feel that they are OURS. And more especially if our values and beliefs align strongly with this individual and what he/she might be struggling with.