“Have the courage to be sincere, clear and honest. This opens the door to deeper communication all around. It creates self-empowerment and the kind of connections with others we all want in life. Speaking from the heart frees us from the secrets that burden us. These secrets are what make us sick or fearful. Speaking truth helps you get clarity on your real heart directives.”
I love this and agree with Sara completely. And these 3 words are VERY simple, aren’t they?! But, to be sincere, clear, and honest with others in our lives is NOT always a simple proposition.
But I must tell you… I do believe that the rewards are endless!
And I would love to tell you that I ALWAYS embody these words, and more often than not I do. But sometimes pure honesty is painful and difficult. I think that we all know this!
I find it most difficult when I am almost certain that My words (thoughts/feelings) will create sadness or hurt for someone else. Yet, I believe things do need to be said, sometimes at least.
And it may hurt so much in the moment and feel like you are being ripped apart! But in the end, I think everyone will feel better! And it may take a day, a week, a month, or even longer.
BUT, ultimately, your truth will have been spoken, a weight will have been lifted, and you’ll hopefully feel empowered and unburdened through your honesty.
And who knows, perhaps you’ll even be pleasantly surprised…your courageousness has strengthened not only you…but both of you! 🙂
So, what do YOU think about Sara’s words??
Is it easy for you to be sincere, clear, and honest with everyone in YOUR life?!?
I agree!! For me it’s not if but when I come out:( I’ve been keeping my fetish in the closet since 1998. Few guy at gym found out and it wasn’t good. With that being said I quit my membership started lifting at home and haven’t looked Back as those guys screwed me in bodybuilding. I won show and they trained me along with guy who I was gong agsinst but didn’t know it until day of show. Needless to say we got into fight I lost show and I quit because of that! I workout along with dressing at home! I’ve met 2 women who I’ve gone out with but they don’t know my fetish. If I want to take this a step further I’ll have to come out. What should I do? It’s reason I’ve been single and never had girlfriend. The leggings/boots/yoga pants are hot look that I find sexy and it get me hard as I’ve worn that at home. What women would go with guy like me who’s into that? Not many.:( your advice is most welcome!
Miss Mandy this was the most gripping thing I read all pay period. I mean it. I am an honest person by nature, sometimes blunt, guilty….Sagittarian here. It can be difficult sometimes because everyone doesn’t want to hear the truth.I don’t want to hurt people , but I know that the truth is necessary. I would rather be hurt with the truth than placated with lies.
Thank you Mandy, I have shared my deepest, darkest secrets with you and you have always been so honest with me…and I love that.
I think it’s great that you workout at home, Petey. Sorry about what happened with those guys at the gym! 🙁 I think you already know how I feel about your situation…it is not an easy one. I wish more people were more accepting of one another!
Hi Lena! Thanks for stopping by again! And thank you for your wonderful compliment. 🙂 And boy are you right about people not wanting to hear the truth! And you know that I am SO with you…I would also rather be hurt with the truth than placated by lies.
Thank YOU Rick…I so appreciate not only that you have but that you have let Me know that you have!! Thank you for trusting Me this way. I don’t believe that trust should simply be given automatically…I think that it needs to be earned. I try very hard to be honest with others. Thank you for appreciating this in Me. 🙂
I’ve had enough of getting screwed over! It’s happening to me at work and with family. When I want time off they don’t like it and they want me to do what they want not what I want! Same as we have part time workers who want to work when they want not when I want then to! That’s going to change as I hate those people and they need to work for me as they take advantage of this! I hate & despise them! That’s going to change! I know this has nothing to do with post but this has gone in way to long and I’ve had enough of this!
Yes Goddess, You have once again provided inspirational words to live by.Yet, as You said, it is not always easy to share the whole truth with everyone. For me, while i have great sensitivity to other’s feelings, i believe my problem is the vulnerability i sense when sharing things tat may be unpleasant, hurtful, or cruel. What if they won’t like me anymore? Perhaps they’ll never speak to me again? Sometimes though, depending on the depth of the relationship, i feel it is doing them a disservice to not share my perception of “the truth”, to open a dialog to see, and better understand their side of the house.
Yes a clear conscious is a wonderful thing, but it may also lead to being perceived in a bad light. my e-wife takes great pride in being bluntly honest, yet sometimes, She comes across as just being “Fuking Rude!”
a little tact can go a long way to opening that necessary dialog to strengthen a relationship and not destroy it.
i do know You do live by this concept, and by doing so, always enable me to share openly, and honestly with You the thoughts of not only my conscious brain, but those of my heart and body as well.
i believe this is the cornerstone of this wonderful relationship of friendship (with benefits) we have cultivated over the past three years. Thanks for being my best friend and being such a beautiful person.
It really makes Me sad, Petey that you are going through this. But, it really sounds like you are about to “put your foot down”! I would love to hear about how it goes. I think we both know that you deserve to be treated better than this. 🙂
I already have stated this. Even 2 co workers said that being single shouldn’t make a bit of difference in being treated fair. It’s to point if I want time off to do what I want I’m going to take time off not ask for time off. I will keep you posted! I’ve mentioned that as long as work doesn’t interfere with tennis I’m fine and that I don’t want to work till 10pm every Friday/Saturday night anymore. I need and want to have fun as there’s way more to life then working all the time.
I know kneel, it’s really often not. I am glad that you were inspired by what I shared. I was so incredibly drawn to her words!!
And I do completely understand your worries about hurting someone’s feelings or that perhaps they will not like you anymore. I have felt this before, too.
And yes, a little tact can go a VERY long way…totally agree! 🙂 I think we can usually get our point across without needing to be so damn blunt it can border on the “fucking rude” that you spoke of.
I try very hard to live by this concept, you are right! And I am so glad that it has become the cornerstone of our relationship. I love how you stated this and honestly I could not agree more! 🙂
Yes Petey, you are SO right…there is way more to life than working all the time!! 🙂
It’s time to have carefree don’t give a f–k attitude