So, “T”….hmmmmmmm. Ohhhh I like this one. T is for “topping” or “topping from the bottom”. I am thinking that most of you out there know exactly what this is, right?!? 🙂
But just in case not, here is a simple little definition that I found and really like…“Topping from the Bottom” in its fundamental sense means just what it says- the person who’s “bottoming” (on the receiving end of sensation or activity) is actually in control of the situation, as in directing application of said sensation or activity.” (Written by Rev @ dominantguide.com)
So who among you has ever done this or felt as if likely you have?? Honestly, I don’t think it’s so strange. I do, however, think it takes a LOT to completely and utterly give up control.
As I see it…there needs to be complete trust between you and your Partner (Mistress/Master/Dominant). And if not, you as the submissive will likely not feel safe enough to truly relinquish this control and may indeed find yourself topping from the bottom in an effort to maintain greater control of the situation.
So, topping from the bottom…is it a bad thing? Is it frowned upon? By many in the BDSM community I would say yes. For me, I will say that depends. It depends on your thinking…your motives.
Maybe you and or your Partner are new to this type of play and you are both learning the ropes (pun perhaps intended) AND each other. Or maybe you’re trying to “test the waters” with Him or Her and figure out what feels OK and what does not. And maybe even though your trust is strong, you are still feeling incredibly scared to relinquish this much control to another human being!
I totally get it! Giving up complete control can be VERY scary!!!
However, if you’re some kind of pretender OR feel the need to challenge, or direct, or control the action and/or your Partner, then maybe you’re not truly a bottom. Which is fine, but don’t present yourself as a true bottom.
Pretend in the play is great. Pretend in the negotiations and the relationship can be problematic. Fantasy is fantasy…but be true to your Partner. As long as everyone is on the same page good clean (or perhaps not so clean) fun can be had by all! 🙂
I have no problem giving up control. Women do have the power over guys . I’ve been looking to have this happen to me. I told my masseuse about my crossdressing which was tough but feel so good that I did and she’s accepting of this. We are planning on going dress shopping and she wants me to wear dress/bra/panties and have me get makeover in which she’s looking forward to. I’ve been friends with 2 other girls and I want them to take control of me. The only thing is they don’t know of my dressing.????????. Though the one I think has hots for me. And I have hot for the other one. I’ve always been submissive and I don’t have problem if these 3 want to take lead in relationship. It’s what I want but how do I go about it without scaring them?
T could also mean thick black cock as well goddess.
Just be honest with them, Petey. Like you were with your masseuse. If they are interested then you’ll all be on the same page and if not I am sure you’ll know.
Ohhhhh My little whore, yes it most certainly can! And wouldn’t you just love reading ALL about thick black cock?!? Well honestly, that would be nice of course. But, having one fuck your mouth would be at least 10X better, huh?!? 😉
Had that creampie goddess. As you gave permission to do
Yes I did, penelope 😉 And you’re welcome!!
One of my gfs had been to say few things to me that’s been on inside for months. I had it coming to me as I made major mistake as we went for dinner and I mentioned about her friend in having good time with her and I shouldn’t have done that. It made her feel small. I told her that I didn’t realize I did this and apologized to her. Luckily she accepted. She said she wants to know more about me and have conversations outside of tennis as we play 3-5 times a week and year round. I said I do want to do that as well. I also said I’d love to know more about her as well. The 3 of us have been friends for over 5 years and I said I dont want to give that up and keep it going. It was about 15 minute talk and I’m glad she brought this up to me. With her mentioning this to me I have to believe she has hots for me. We hugged after this and both felt much better. I feel this is going to turn into relationship from friendship. Since she opened up to me I’m going to tell her I’d love to be in female lead relationship. I did mention to one of her friends that Ill do whatever her and her friend wants without back talking or yelling and she said she’s looking for boyfriend like that. I’ve never had this happen to me but I’m glad it is. There’s one little matter though. I like to wear women’s clothes/bras/panties/dresses but she doesn’t know that yet????????????.
This sounds like a really nice exchange you had with her, Petey. I am thinking sharing this with her is just on the horizon. 🙂